roaring 20s?

Kev
2 min readNov 15, 2020

3 years from now I will be 30 years old. Even though 3 years seems like a long time, it’s going to arrive so fast. I’m currently in that gray zone between 25–30 where the age really doesn’t matter because you’re past the quarter-life crisis (or so I think I’m past it) and you look around and see where your friends and coworkers are in life. House bought, student loans paid off, multiple kids, changing careers, still figuring it all out.

It’s wild. I scroll through reddit and I see a lot of, “Am I wasting away my 20s?” posts every so often and I find myself thinking to myself, “Have I wasted my 20s? Am I reddit user dungeonsanddragonking1029505??”

Sure, looking back there were quite a few opportunities that I’ve missed out on whether it was pursuing a relationship(s), learning a new skill, going to visit a new city or country. As easy as it is to reflect on those misses, it’s just as easy to look past the incremental goals that you may or may not have set for yourself. I’ve been fortunate to work with amazing people throughout the years, jobs that allowed me to have the flexibility to travel for an extended period of time, whether family or solo. I’m much smarter than I was when I was 20/21. A lot of my passions have shifted priority over the years and as a result I’ve taken risks I never thought I would. My desires in life have changed. I had no plan back when I was 18 except pursue something that I liked back then without realizing the lifestyle that came with it. Now? 9 years later, I plan everything out as much as possible to ensure that I have many options as the years go by. I’m at places I never thought I would be in life, no matter how many times I could go back in time and make a guess. It’s how life works, and this continued evolution, to me, is what’s most important. This process of continuously improving yourself, your skill set, your relationships, achieving small goals, applying yourself to being something more…that stuff is fulfilling and it’s what drives me more than any checkbox of having to buy a house, car, be married, have kids.

It’s generally believed that your 20s are the best years of your life where you do everything possible. That may or may not happen to you, but as long as you find a balance of doing what makes you happy and not have force yourself to be something you don’t want to be in the eyes of others while improving yourself and incrementally gaining knowledge while trusting the process, that’s what matters most.

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